I Should Have Known Earlier I Was Gay

Heteronormativity sucks, doesn’t it It feels nice to put a finger on what gears have been malfunctioning. Kenya being a heteronormative society puts a blind on some very core issues of people who identify as not straight. I for one did not have a clue as to why boys made me cringe. It was a…

A Letter To The Girlfriend I Don’t Have

Yet.   It’s 23:55 and I can’t sleep because I slept during the day. I need to be up early tomorrow. I am hoping writing to you will calm my mind down. Enough for me to actually get some sleep. I haven’t written to you. I have hardly talked to you. I have conjured up…

Out Film Festival & A Quiet Revolution

Work is really tough and I have mad nerves (I don’t want to say anxiety because I don’t want to misappropriate it). But because I promised Zandi, and convinced Bestie, I have to go for the film festival. Zandi picks me up and I can’t stop talking. She is really understanding. She even asks if…

27, The Exhibition

A group, seated in a circle. I would love to tell you how everyone looked like but I never scan the crowd. Partly because I am severely short-sighted, mostly because I am painfully shy. Certain people stood out though. Njoki Ngumi, the moderator, Kari from NGLHRC and the artists who we had sat behind. Kawira…

Let’s Talk About Sex And Other Things

Let’s just get this out of the way. Our queer mamas (I don’t know how they’ll take to this name) over at Hola Africa have been having some great conversations about women having sex with women all week. Today they are talking about consent. Today we shall be looking at the consent part of safe…

Being Queer Shouldn’t Mean Death

I had a dream last night. It wasn’t one of the sex dreams that have been haunting me because I have a crush on someone and she won’t let me breathe, even in my dreams. And it wasn’t the super powers dream that I had had the night before. Last night I dreamt that they…

LGBT Content Is Not Evil, Ezekiel

A guest post. “These people should be burnt.” “We should stone them.” These are just some of the utterances I have seen following social media posts following any kind of LGBTQ+ content in Kenya. I will not go ahead and try to talk to these people and tell them to look at the people in…

Why Not Date A Man

  😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 why would you not date a man then date a woman that looks exactly like a man??? Why?? pic.twitter.com/S6kLXBNyaZ — NeleMwangi (@Annitajoe1) October 9, 2017 //platform.twitter.com/widgets.js Why do we as human beings, often feel the need to ‘understand’ people’s choices? Let’s just begin by making it clear that everyone should be able to…

A Dozen Tulips| #QueeringTheCloak

A dozen long-stemmed tulips showed up at work, wrapped neatly in yellow tulle and pale cream ribbons. All the girls rushed to my desk, cooing. They said I was the luckiest girl in the world. That my ‘boyfriend’ was the sweetest person on the planet. That they had never seen anything so pretty. That I…

Marriage, Strap-ons and Baby Dyke Problems

Some Gay people end up in hetero marriages. I was having drinks with an older friend when she dropped this on me. I was shook. I am still shook. It is hard for me to wrap my mind around not ending up with a woman. I told her exactly that and she asked how I…

It’s Okay

“We get it, you’re gay”   Is one of the comments I received on my Sarahah. I didn’t know how to feel about it so I laughed it off. I’ve talked about struggling with oversharing my gayness. Part of me wants to jump on top of a mountain and shout it so everyone, from the…

The Day They Legalized Gay Marriage In Kenya

I was on one of my usual Twitter breaks when I read it. The mundanity and monotony of work was grating. Frequent Twitter breaks helped assuage my boring mind, urging it to keep on working. I was scrolling through, as I usually did, half distracted, half attentive. I scrolled past it then scrolled back up….